My New Year’s Resolution is to Keep My New Year’s Resolution

Happy 2013, everyone! Are you ready to kick off the new year with a big bang? Or do you find yourself starting this January sleepily dragging your behind back to work? Let’s wake up and get excited for bigger and better things, people!

So truth be told, I actually haven’t made a New Year’s resolution. I can’t remember the last year that I did. There’s two reasons why I’ve bowed out for 2013. The first is that I feel like I’ve gained enough motivation and momentum from 2012 to continue bettering myself in the new year without any pre-defined goals.

And secondly — as the title implies — I don’t have the greatest track record for keeping the NYRs that I have made. I don’t think most of us do.

Canadians New Years Resolutions 2011 Toronto Star

Of the friends I’ve asked, almost all don’t believe in making New Year’s resolutions. To them, NYRs merely represent “empty promises”. But there are a couple who have set some lofty goals, including the second top NYR of last year: to quit smoking. And I actually believe that they have a good chance of sticking to it.

New Year’s resolutions aren’t typically goals that we can attain with the snap of our fingers. Inspired by the “fresh new start” that apparently comes delivered on January 1st, many of us pump our fists in the air with newfound purpose and declare: “Yes, I can!” At least for the time being it seems like anything is truly possible.

But somewhere along the way — a week later, two, three months into the grind — our resolve wilts like flowers in the harsh, winter snow. The NYR that was becomes no more.


So how is it that some people are able to achieve what they’ve set out to do for an entire year? Are they a special breed? Do the ones who make it to the end choose resolutions that were just easier to resolve?

I can’t give you the answers. I’m not one of these people. Doesn’t mean that I’m not inspired or want to improve myself this year. I’m just not ready to set anything in stone right now ;)

Calvin and Hobbes New years resolution comic

What’s your New Year’s Resolution? And what does it take to see one’s NYR through to the end of the year?

– Cafe <3

Credits: Canadians’ NYRs statsJanuary list comicCalvin and Hobbes comic


75 thoughts on “My New Year’s Resolution is to Keep My New Year’s Resolution

  1. In a nutshell, my new years resolutions are to lose weight and spend less money. So far I have been really kicking arse. It’s a mindset and right up until December 31st I spent money and ate rubbish food. From the beginning of 2013 I”ve only spent money four time outside of grocery shopping and vets bills, and I’ve eaten hardly any rubbish. My eating habits have improved – heck, I even turned down a delicious looking chocolate today! :) I don’t normally make new years resolutions, but the time has come, the Walrus said… so I did. And I’m pleasedd that I did.

    • Way to kick arse! Keep it up. I know it can be easy to slip back into old habits, but spending less and eating healthier are two very worthwhile goals to see through! I hope you make it and I look forward to checking back with you to see how you did/are doing! :)

      • Thanks for the encouragement. :) I went out for tea tonight, but that’s different than healthy eating on a daily basis. I jumped on the scales today and may or may not have lost up to three kilos so far… lol

  2. I’m a big fan of New Years Resolutions and to be honest, I actually stuck with the majority of mine for 2012!! But with that being said, none of my resolutions were ridiculously out of reach. I think a lot of people make ridiculous resolutions, like “Lose 30lbs by the end of the year”, but they’ve never even seen the inside of a gym in their life. Resolutions should be things that challenge oneself, but aren’t completely impossible. For example, I’m huge into fitness so one of my resolutions for last year was to do at least one 5k, which I did. I’m not a runner by any means, but since I was already into fitness, I figured I could work on that and work towards that goal. It’s definitely hard to keep resolutions throughout the entire year, but I think if it’s something you truly want to have happen, it’ll happen. Anyways, Happy New Year!! Looking forward to reading your blog this year!! :-)

    • That’s incredible that you succeeded with most of your NYRs. It sounds like you carefully thought out what you wanted to, and could, achieve and that made the difference. I haven’t thought out anything carefully enough, but I still hope to have some good goals for this year. They just need to be formed when the time is right :)

      Thanks so much, Leslie! I really appreciate your continued readership and I’m looking forward to chatting with you some more this year!

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  4. Stop smoking now !!!!! And you will be a better person straight away … I’m too old for new years resolutions – I make them up as I go along … during the year. Happy New Year and good to yourself.

  5. My goal is quite concrete…drop down to 75kg and stay there.

    And did ya know that just by promising a follow up you’ll be helping people meet their goals? So thanks for that :) And happy new year from Bangkok!

  6. Haha yeah I’m part of the eat better lose weight new years resolution people who failed during the first 24 hours and had to err…delay my start until there a category for that? :D

    • IF I were to make a NYR, eating better and exercising regularly would be on the list too ;)

      Maybe like Seto said below, it has to be a bit more specific. Maybe instead of just “eat better”, we have to make a list, look for some healthy recipes or types of foods that we will eat more of and actually plan the meals out decisively every week or two. And possibly also give ourselves some cheat days every now and then too =P

  7. I don’t have New Year’s resolutions, I am simply resolved to be better than last year. Thinner and healthier too. Keep your fingers crossed. But I’ve been working on that for six months, so I don’t think it counts!

    Happy New Year, Janice. With or without resolutions!

    • Thanks, Elyse! Happy new year to you as well!

      Being better than last year is a mighty fine goal. I’m with you on that one! And being healthier! Being thinner ..well, I won’t imply you need that ’cause I don’t know what you look like (although I’m sure you’re simply ravishing the way you are ;).. You still owe me a picture! Hehe =P

  8. I never did the resolution thing. I’m not big on those “special moment” things; being thankful on Thanksgiving, being generous on Christmas, all that soul-searching at New Year’s. I try to live those things as best as I can all the time (and I’m not saying I always do well — sometimes I do horrible at it, but they’re always my daily goals).

    • That’s a great perspective to take. So do you think you “do horrible” at it sometimes because you forget about those goals from time to time? Or rather, you do consciously think about those goals day by day but they’re not things that are always easy to follow?

      • A very good question! They’re principles I was brought up with, so they are core parts of my outlook in life, not things I need to remember or be reminded of, as such. I think it’s more a matter of conflicting desires sometimes (and you have to chose among non-ideal options) or that in the hustle of the rat race, it’s easy to lose your sense of self momentarily.

        I guess it’s the age-old conflict between your brain and your heart. Sometimes the brain starts running in “Oh, poor pitiful me” circles. (“Oh, I don’t have this, and I don’t have that.”)

        Then the heart kicks in and says, “Oh, give me a friggin’ break, dude! You have a roof over your head (you even co-own it with the bank); you have a fridge full of food (well, mostly beer); you’re gainfully employed; you have your health (more or less) and you live in a free country… quit yer damn whining!!”

        To which the brain replies, “Oh,.. right…. Never mind.”

        • Hahaha, you’re hilarious =P

          We all need reminders. I get caught up in the rush of everyday life too. I find that blogging is a good conduit for reminding myself and keeping me accountable as well :)

          • Yeah, nothing like putting it in writing in front of the whole world to put you on the spot for getting it done!

            Maybe there’s a website idea there for someone… a website where you post your resolutions and then everyone harasses you about them for the rest of the year!

            • Hahaha! That’s an amazing idea! Seriously. Actually, the person who made this website could charge a fee to also help plan and keep the resolution maker motivated to achieve their goal! There’s gotta be something like this out there already …

            • It does sound too obvious to not have been thought of. Still, consider the idea my gift to you if you care to run with it. To make it marketable, you’d need to provide services that raise it above what anyone might do with friends on Facebook or by leveraging some other existing system.

              Ancestry-dot-com, for example, has all those tools for family history, plus it connects you with other users who might be in your family tree. And as you’ve already pointed out, there are such services as could be offered. Planners, reminder emails, connections with others, etc.

              If you become famous and rich with this new product, I can say I knew you way back when! :)

            • Me watching over other people’s resolutions? Now that is truly hysterical! You know those two little spirits sitting on your shoulders whispering in your ear? One with the heavenly ideas; the other with the devilish ones?

              I ain’t the one with the halo (and I don’t look good in white).

              (I actually do have an idea up my sleeve that this reminded me of. This one actually could be a monster success, altho I need to do a bit of digging around to see if there’s anything out there like I have in mind.)

              ((Is it just me or do you feel like the walls are closing in on us here?))

            • Haha! I need to change the max number of comment replies in one thread to something lower!

              Alright, good luck with your secret, monstrous plan! Let me know when it hatches =P

  9. Learn to say no more often. That should be easy right? Actually I wrote about this, mine aren’t real resolutions so at the end of the year I won’t feel guilty if I don’t achieve them.

    Happy 2013 Janice.

        • You can do it!! If you get a craving, you could probably make healthy versions of burgers, pizza, etc at home. Good luck, I’ll be checking in with you at the end of the year ;)

          • I do that’s the thing I make AMAZING home made pizza all kinds not just pepperoni. And I make a KILLER Turkey Burger… but that’s the thing I MAKE IT LOL I get tired. I’m trying to juggle a career, writing, 2 kids and a soul mate. I just get so tired… BUT I AM GOING TO SUCK IT UP!!!!!!!!
            Could we start a fast food chain of healthy food? Healthy burgers baked fryes?

            • Hahaha, I got you. It is exhausting to cook all the time for sure, plus everything else!! I don’t know how you do it, Jasmine! But I have faith in you. I think giving yourself a cheat day every now and then is okay too, as long as you don’t go over your limit ;)

  10. Hey Janice! Happy new year! I don’t make NYRs but somehow I have some goals in mind, you know like finishing my first novel and maybe publishing it, and work well at school since it’s going to be my very last year before I jump into university!
    I think I should spare more of my time to read too.
    Wishing you and your blog a wonderful and successful year :)

    • Happy New Year, Daphnee! :)

      That’s an incredible goal! How is the novel going? How much longer do you think you’ll need to finish it?

      I’d love to read more as well this year!

      Thanks for the thoughtful wishes. All the best to you and your blog and writing this year!

  11. My blogspot site was closed down just before Thanksgiving. I am now re-establishing my presence on my new site. Everyday is a constant challenge for me as I try to look for ideas and inspiration to come up with better contents for the site. I’m really working hard, but just can’t figure where I go wrong. If there is anything that I will like to do better, I hope when my new blog eventually scales up to the size of my previous blog, it will be better in every aspects.

    Wish you a good start in 2013!

    • Thank you! All the best in 2013 :)

      Challenges keep life and blogging exciting! So I hope you enjoy the journey getting to that bigger and better blog as much as the final outcome.

  12. Set goals when they fee right to go after that’s what I say.

    My resolution? Be me more. What I mean by that basically is be truer to myself. It’s been working well so far.

    • Hehe, that’s okay, Andy. Funny though, I’m surprised you’re not making one. You seem like the type of person who would get inspired to make a NYR and also see it through :)

    • Haha, you’re hilarious. Well, some of those you got in the bag but others seem like quite the challenge! Especially the one leading to the consumption of oatmeal .. blegh. My prayers are with you.

  13. i normally don’t make resolutions but I like the idea of having new goals for the new year. I think goals should be specific.. looking at two goals I made.. 1.quit smoking 2. be more proactive. The 2nd one I found may be harder to commit to, so I changed it to.. “Stick to the agenda” – The big white board beside my desk. So far, so good. Why don’t you set a goal like run 5-10k under a certain time?

    • I like the idea of new goals too. I guess you do really need to keep it specific and it has to be attainable. Like sure, most things are theoretically attainable. But really, I don’t think most people give enough thought on how they’re going to achieve their NYR.
      Well, there is one thing only that I’d be willing to commit to right now and that is to write my own song :)

      Good luck with yours, I really do hope to see you guys quit smoking! And changing your second one was a good idea. Just make sure that whatever you put on the white board is also doable! =P

  14. LOL,good post :) My resoultion is to keep my tradition of not making resolutions…..DOH!!! :P

    Actually,I do have one this year…though I still enjoy a good cigar (about 18 per day,actually),fr the extra $* I spend every month,for health and most importantly,for my family…when I run out (which will be sometime over the weekend),mine is to quit smoking (after having smoked since AIT in the ARMY in ’91),not buy any more when I run out. I do have a plan,and support,and have talked with my doc,so,should be doable,wish me luck :)

    *Hey,I been spending an average of $100 per month + or – on cigs,that’s a few $’s more than it would take to pay entry fees every week to race electric RC trucks here locally-a hobby I’m getting back into as we speak and loved yars ago ;)

    • Haha you made me laugh with that first line =P

      I am SO psyched to hear you are planning to quit. Remember, come end of December we’ll be auditing all NYRs that are declared on here said page!

      I’m also happy to hear that you’re getting back into a hobby you love. That’s way more happiness-inducing than smoking!! Btw, what does the “RC” stand for?

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