Writing From the Heart: Question #16 (Now and Then)

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I can still remember when I used to type on a typewriter. The old school kind where there was no white-out tape. When you made a mistake it was like the worst shit ever. You’d tear out that piece of paper that had like two sentences on it and the big fat error, and fling it into the garbage to start over again.

There are other things about back-in-the-day technology (DOS operating system, anyone?) that make me feel slightly ancient now when I see little infants playing on their iPhones.

I feel really ancient when I find myself thinking: I am not going to allow my child to have these things at such a young age and be busting it out at the dinner table. (Well, they won’t be busting it out at the dinner table if they don’t have it in the first place, so forget I said the second thing …).

But you know what I’m sayin’.

Is all this new technology necessarily a bad change the world has gone through? No. But it certainly is strange — and nostalgic — for me to have grown up both in the generation of rotary telephones and in the generation of the technology/social media boom.

When the following generations grow up knowing only a world of high-speed, digital communication and advanced technological entertainment, how will they, as people, be different from their .. um .. forefathers? (I know, ancient talk lol).

Take a few minutes to ask yourself: What are some ways — good and bad — the world has changed since you were a kid? Write a post about it, share it in the comment box below, or just keep it to yourself ;)  

- Cafe

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Housekeeping stuff: I had wanted to update my Page Dedicated to My Readers as I have amassed quite a few new blog subscribers over the past few weeks. But when I visit many of these bloggers’ pages, I find it really difficult to not suspect that they have only subscribed to my blog to hopefully get a “follow” back. (You know what I’m talking about, right? Those blogs that are trying to make money, grow their business, etc). And I never see their actual presence on my blog, so I’m even less convinced that they’re here to actually read what I’m writing. So long story short, I don’t plan on adding anymore blogs to the list unless it’s someone who I’ve been chatting with here and know they’ve genuinely subscribed. I ain’t into that crap where bloggers set up those automatic “likes” on a shitload of random bloggers’ posts to try to get traffic onto their blog. I wouldn’t be surprised if they have automatic “follows” as well. I apologize to anyone who likes to read the blog in silence, but there’s no real way for me to know unless you leave a comment.

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Writing From the Heart: Question #15 (Time or Money?)

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Alright, people. I’m back with the Writing From the Heart blog post series! It’s time to put your thinking caps on ;)

You may have noticed that a lot of guest posts have been going up on Your Daily Dose lately. Life’s been hectic, I’ve grown quite un-fond of computer screens, and … well, I’ve had a bit of blogger’s block to top it all off.

But I feel like it’s during these times when life just seems to be passing by in a tired blur that we have to refocus and re-spark our love for life! So as I was scrolling through some inspirational questions for this post, my eye landed on this one: Time or money?

I feel like most people’s gut reaction would be to say: “Time!”

I know that for me, it is. That’s because I have spent much of my life without time — and when I say “time”, I mean time outside of work and school. It was only a few months ago that my life finally consisted of having just one full-time job. That’s it. No school. No second or third part-time job. Free evenings. Free weekends.

I just didn’t know what to do with myself.

Well, I quickly figured it out. After the first Saturday of sitting on the couch staring at the TV and asking myself if there was some work that I should be doing, I smacked myself across the face and yelled: “There is no work to do! Enjoy your free time!” (I think this conversation was happening in my head).

Once it had sunk in, I started going all out. I could pick up some hobbies! Singing! Playing guitar! Writing! I had time for it all! I could visit my friends and family more often! I could sit on the couch on Sunday and watch football all day! I could also just *gasp* do nothing at all! My God, this was what I had been missing out on all these years. This was how other people were living.

Now, that may sound like the conclusion of the story, but alas, it is not. During this time of activity and exuberance, I had still thought about getting a part-time job to be able to pay off my student loan faster and save more for the future. I just couldn’t bring myself to do it after having gotten a taste of the good life. But while I by no means consider myself to be a greedy, materialistic person, I do recognize that there are certain things that could add to the quality of my life right now that do require money over time.

So, I don’t know. Maybe the question isn’t so easy to answer. Maybe now is (still) the time to put in that extra work in order for me to feel more settled and secure a little ways down the road. And to also be able to continue going on trips around the world and drinking fine scotch guilt-free! Those things make me happy too ;)

Take a few minutes to ask yourself: Time or money? Write a post about it, share it in the comment box below, or just keep it to yourself ;)

- Cafe

Photo Credit: Question 15

Writing From the Heart: Questions #13-14 (I Don’t Wanna Talk About It)

Today, I thought I would challenge myself and choose two questions that I originally did not want to answer for my “Writing From the Heart” series. I’m moody enough to do it. So here we go :)

This question, for me, is just asking to get into a debate about religion, which people have warned me to steer clear of on my blog. That’s why I didn’t want to go there. Well, the floor is now open.

I don’t remember when I started feeling the clock ticking, but it did happen at some point. I started thinking about other people’s mortality and then my own. Thought about how those who believe there is something else beyond this life have comfort in that. And those who don’t will feel the pressure that this is their only chance.

Is it a good thing to have that motivation? Does it compel a person to achieve more before time runs out? Or is life just more stressful and meaningless that way?

Discuss. But play nice.

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I think the question itself explains why I wouldn’t want to think or write about it.

But that’s exactly why I should think and write about it. Right?

I’ve told you about my recurring nightmares before. I’ve been having them for well over 15 years now consistently. It’s not that I don’t want to confront it. It’s not that I haven’t tried figuring out what the heck is going on in my brain. But I think sometimes we let things that have been so long-standing and a part of our lives just run its course. It becomes so tiring to analyze it, solve it, change it. And it also becomes such a normal feature in our every day that we kind of even forget how unhealthy it might be to us.

So now that I’ve publicly said it, I will make myself accountable to being more confrontational towards those damn monsters chasing me. They’re going down, I say!

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My apologies for the somber mood, but it’s been one of those weeks. I wanted to thank everyone again for helping me get my blog glitches under control. It’s really made me happy to know that people are reading and enjoying the blog! Look forward to hearing your thoughts today :)

- Cafe

Take a few minutes to ask yourself: When did you first realize that life is short? (Do you even think that life is short?) AND What issues do you continually refuse to confront? Write a post about it, share it in the comment box below, or just keep it to yourself ;)

Photo Credit: Questions 13 & 14

Writing From the Heart: Question #10-11 (I Told You So)

Don’t go out with assholes. Study more. Why do you need to go clubbing three nights a week?! Stay away from JDs (somebody should have really told me that one).

Okay, what would you really say to your young self? Is it not true that you have to experience certain things when you’re growing up? Figure it out by trial and error? Learn from your mistakes? Blah, blah, blah?

I used to think I was the smartest person in the world. Had myself all figured out. All at the ripe old age of 16. Parents? They clearly didn’t understand what I was going through and just wanted to be strict about going out with my friends and coming home late. The injustices were just too horrendous to bear.

In a way, I don’t think there’s anything we could say to our young selves to drill it into our heads that when parents or older people tell us not to do certain things, it is because they understand. They’ve been through shit. They’ve experienced so much more in life. I mean, come on, give them some respect. There has to be something good about getting old.

Eh heh, I kid.

But my point is that as I did get older, I realized how much of what they had said to me was sage advice. How important it was to wake up for school (I blame the insomnia), and spend more time with family and less time grindin’ .. I mean, socializing in da club.

In my opinion, even though kids will often ignore what they’re being told at the moment, I believe it still has an impact down the road when it all starts finally sinking into their brains. So don’t throw your hands up in the air just yet, parental units!

As for Little Janice, there’s a lot that she could have done differently. But in the end, kids will be kids. Their brains are not designed to think about the future, to not be impulsive and in the moment. So I think I won’t be too hard on her. She didn’t turn out too bad in the end ;)

- Cafe

Take a few minutes to ask yourself: If you could go back in time and tell a younger version of yourself one thing, what would you tell? And What’s something you changed your mind about when you grew older? Write a post about it, share it in the comment box below, or just keep it to yourself ;)

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Writing From the Heart: Question #5 (I Am Not Who You Think I Am)

I was pretty sure that I knew the answer to this question. But I needed to confirm my suspicions.

So I asked some of my closest friends: If you were to meet me for the first time, what’s a misconception you might have of me (knowing what you know about me now)?

Here’s what they had to say:

That you’re quiet and shy.

That you might be a cold, disinterested, arms-length type of person, which is so not it! … Once people get to know you, you’re very warm, personable, and approachable.

That you are delicate, focused more on make-up and not getting your feet wet than on portages and adventures.

That you’re a quiet, proper, cute, innocent little Asian. Hahaha!!

[The first part of this answer cannot be disclosed to the public, but here's the second part:] It’s been fun getting to know you. It’s been a constant fun journey of discovering Janice.

Well, you look sweet and dainty but I’ve heard you go off before like: “Yo, f**k that s**t!” So perhaps the potential fire in your belly isn’t evident on the surface.

Just as I suspected.

I guess sometimes I can take a while to open up to people. Sometimes it’s because I am shy and other times it’s because I have become jaded and distrusting of the world. I also think that I have always been an observer first, and a talker second.

There have been so many instances where I feel people have assumed that I am a certain way, when it isn’t the whole story at all. Having a conversation or two — or even twenty — with me doesn’t make you an expert analyst on who I am. I think because of this, I try to give people the benefit of the doubt when I’m getting to know them. There are so many different kinds of situations that bring out different sides of one person. I have friends that I’ve known for years and I’m still discovering new and interesting things about them!

Only time will tell — whether you are willing to wait around that long to find out is your decision. But if you are open-minded and non-judgemental, if you ask questions and really listen, it is amazing the kinds of interesting things you will learn about others!

- Cafe

Take a few minutes to ask yourself: What’s a common misconception people have about you? Write a post about it, share it in the comment box below, or just keep it to yourself ;)

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