Writing From the Heart: Question #1 (This Defense Mechanism Is Toast)

I’ve been feeling some serious blogger’s block lately. For some reason, I’ve been finding it hard to get back to where I started off with this blog — brace yourself for the cheese — writing from the heart *cringe*

Okay, so moving along … I was first inspired by Shira’s blog as I knew she had been doing 30 Days of Honesty Blogging (which originated from somewhere in the blogosphere). Shira always writes from the heart. I needed to take a lesson from this young lady! ;) I wanted to do something similar, so I Googled for some ideas and came across “40 Photo-Illustrated Questions to Refocus Your Mind.” Reading through the questions, I felt the spark inside again.

So here we go … And I hope that you will also find some inspiration in thinking about these questions for yourself. They often remind us what are the most important things in life, how much we’ve learned, and how we can continue striving to improve ourselves. So feel free to join me in this journey! :)

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Today I am strong-minded enough to change.

We all have something about ourselves that we know needs to change. Maybe it’s a negative way of thinking, or something we do in reaction to things we’re afraid of that only hurts ourselves in the end. It might come from being scarred by the things of our past or from unresolved anger. It might just come from being afraid or not having self-confidence. More often than not, it’s a defense mechanism we use to “protect” ourselves. And when we’ve relied on that defense mechanism for years and years, it’s hard to let it go.

A year ago, I knew there were certain things I needed to change about myself. And there’s no question that I had come a very long way from the person I used to be when I was much younger — when I was extremely untrusting, angry, and doubting myself. But even a year ago, I still felt drawn, every so often, to my own defense mechanism whenever I didn’t really want to deal with reality, or when those negative thoughts would return.

Well, today I know that I have a different kind of mental strength than I did then. It took all of the forward progress, as well as the failures, from the last few years to get me here. But now I know that today I am strong-minded enough to see my defense mechanism for what it is and show it the door! It is not an easy thing to do, because over time it has even become your friend, always welcoming you with open arms and promising to comfort you when you want to run and hide from reality. But while you are in its clutches, you have actually lost the freedom of being in control of how you want your life to progress into bigger and better things.

Take a few minutes to ask yourself: What can you do today that you were not capable of a year ago? Or: Do you have a defense mechanism that you need to let go of? Write a post about it, share it in the comment box below, or just keep it to yourself ;)

- Cafe